Living Off Balance...On Purpose

Since becoming a parent I have struggled with many adjustments.  A lot of the time the adjustment is temporary or something I eventually give into and simply make the adjustment.  The hardest and longest lasting one for me has been finding a balance between my daughter and my hobbies.  Earlier I posted an article about Mommy Guilt and this has  a lot to do with my dilemma.  I miss my hobbies.  I keep thinking --- when she can sit up, I will be able to get back to them.  When she can walk, I will finally be able to scrapbook (who am I kidding).  The minute I sit down to do my hobbies, I hear little grunts that remind me I should be playing with my little girl.  "She is only this little once," my conscience whispers.  While I play with her I think "How will I remember this!?  I need to scrap it, I NEED to record it."  When will I finally find peace.  When will I finally find balance?


I recently missed the National Trade Show for my industry (HVAC -WooHoo!!!) because Evie was sick with Bronchiolitis and taking a trip to chilly Chicago didn't seem like such a good idea.  One of our Manufacturers does a great job every year of introducing a motivational speaker.  This year they presented Dan Thurmon.  His words speak to me.  Maybe he has the answer....

We long for a sense of balance, a sense of completion, a sense where all of our efforts even out. Life balance is a concept that is intriguing, desireable, and I believe completely unrealistic. You will never achieve perfect balance, and neither will I which is why I’ve given up. And I am no longer living my life on balance. I’m living off balance on purpose…

Off balance is reality.

Notes:

§  Embrace uncertainty.

§  Those who are creating transformations are leaning forward into the changes, initiating…

§  If you think what you are doing is hard, try something harder.

§  If you live your life thinking you’re finally going to get to a certain level where you have peace and contentment, you will be forever frustrated. The only way to find peace and contentment in life is to find it in the process of living.

§  Take the stage with a little bit of uncertainty.

§  Take chances; make mistakes.

§  Success in life and in business is not determined by your circumstances or your ideas or even your vision; it’s about your action. If you action is not congruent with your words, it doesn’t really matter what you say.

I know his words were intended to speak to us on a professional manner... in regards to our careers, but it certainly applies to our personal life, it certainly applies to parenting.  I think  my husband has this down, he is way more flexible than I am.  I think my NEW new years resolution is to live off balance, on purpose.